Archive | May, 2012

The Love of Grandparents

30 May

After Lila got to spend the week with her grandparents last week it really made me start thinking what an impact they have on our lives. I remember so many wonderful things about my grandparents and they comprised a large part of my childhood.

We referred to my grandparents as More-Mama and More-Daddy, I had 2 More-Daddys and 1 More-Mama. My brother deemed them with these names when he was small. My parents were trying to explain who they were to him and his cute name stuck. My More-Daddy Overholt, my dad’s father lived with us for basically my entire life. The house we lived in was the house my dad had grown up in. More-Daddy lived downstairs which was its own little apartment and we lived upstairs. He was a part of my everyday life and I feel so grateful now that I got to spend so much time with him. He would pick me up from school everyday, join us for dinner most evenings and was always there for you no matter what you needed. His favorite pastime was to sit out in front of the house and watch the world go by. He was a fixture of our house and it was almost a disappointment to arrive home and not have him sitting out front greeting you. If it hadn’t been for More-Daddy I wouldn’t have discovered the joys of “The Price is Right.” He never missed it and I remember sitting with him in the summers and watching Bob Barker give away cash and prizes. That may seem silly but those little moments are priceless.

I also spent a large amount of time with my mom’s parents, especially in the summer. They only lived a short 2o minutes from us. We spent summers building teepees, going to Dollywood, swimming and having overnight visits. I always loved going to their house and More-Mama could make the best mac n cheese in the whole world. They would take me to the local drugstore where I enjoyed chicken n dumplings and chocolate malts. Also, from the time I was 4 until I was about 12 or 13 we would go to the beach each summer. My grandparents along with my mom, dad and brother would spend a week in Garden City, SC. I have some of the most vivid memories of my life from those trips. My grandparents would get up at dawn and walk the beach, only to return with a plethora of sharks teeth. My brother and I thought this was the coolest thing and would fight over the biggest ones. We would have cucumber and tomato sandwiches for lunch while my grandparents caught up on their favorite soap opera at lunch, As The World Turns. I can see the condo as clear as day in my head, I remember the sweet smell of the saltwater, and the instant feeling of never wanting to leave as soon as we arrived.

I can’t help but think about all the lessons my grandparents shared with me and how my life would be so much different if I hadn’t had them. I wish they were around now to see how our lives have changed and blossomed over the last several years. I know they would be proud though. I want to share all these good memories with Lila and let her know how important all her grandparents are. I want her to come away with these tangible memories that she will carry with her throughout her life.

My parents always told me when I was growing up that it was important to spend a lot of time with my grandparents because they wouldn’t always be around. Even though I got to spend an amazing amount of time with them, it is was hard to appreciate all that time fully until it is too late. It is easy to take the people you love most for granted.

This is a good reminder to love hard and often. Take full advantage of the time you have right in front of you.

Let’s Play Catch-Up

29 May

Last week Lila’s babysitter was on vacation so our week was switched up quite a bit. I took off work on Monday and Tuesday and Lila and I had 2 great days hanging out together. Tuesday evening I took Lila to stay with her Mamaw (Josh’s mom) and she spent a few days getting spoiled and seeing family. It was hard leaving her because I knew I wasn’t going to see her until Saturday! That is the longest we have been away from each other. After spending two nights with Josh’s mom she went and stayed two nights with my parents. We missed her terribly and our house was not the same without her.

I would get up from the couch to go check on her at night and then remember she wasn’t there. I would wake up in the middle of the night thinking I heard her and then realize she wasn’t there. The mornings were slow to start and we missed her big toothy grin. Josh and I did get to go to the movies a couple of times which was really fun but we definitely felt her absence. I love that she gets to spend time with our families though. I think it is really important that she knows she has multiple people in her life who love and care about her. I want her to make a million memories with her grandparents like I did with mine.

On Saturday morning, after sleeping til 10am, I rushed off to see our lil buggy at my parent’s house. As soon as I walked through the door she started squealing and trying to get out of her highchair. That truly made me happy, she hadn’t forgotten me! I gave her about a thousand kisses when I saw her, to the point she finally started to push me away. I imagined her saying “enough woman, stop it already…I know you missed me, I’m adorable!” So, I stopped and we played the rest of the weekend. We broke out her new pool she got for her birthday and it was awesome. It was a pool and mini sprinkler in one and it was so refreshing. I think my mom and I enjoyed it more than she did. The water was pretty cold but it felt great since it was in the 90’s!

Josh and I both had Memorial Day off so we got to spend the day with out best girl. She was so excited to have us both home for the day that she only took a 30 minute nap all day. By the time 7:00 rolled around last night she was a zombie. She was literally walking into things and falling over clumsily. I went to rock in her room and she melted in my arms in about 2 minutes flat. I rocked her for an extra 1o minutes just to get some good snuggle time in. That is my favorite part of the day, her letting me hold her.

Well, that is what our life has looked like the past week and we are back on a normal schedule this week.

Summer Lovin

23 May

The Great Pacifier Takedown

23 May

Ding dong the pacifier is dead!

I really can’t believe that the pacifier is no more. I’m relieved but it wasn’t really planned.

A few weeks ago when I picked Lila up from the babysitter she told me Lila hadn’t had it all day, had taken a nap without it and had been completely fine. I was hesitant because she loves the pacifier. A lot of times I think I like to keep it around too because it makes it easier on us. It definitely makes trips out in public much smoother. However, I was willing to start weaning her off of it. The first night I tried not giving it to her she just screamed and cried until I gave in. I was super tired that night so it didn’t take much to get me to that point. The more she started being without it during the day and nap time I knew I had to try and make a better effort at night with her. The second night we attempted it she didn’t make a peep. She simply laid in her crib and sang herself to sleep. What? That can’t be right.

Unfortunately it’s not just that easy. You don’t just take it away one day and they don’t notice…not in our case anyway. She has been without it now for about a week and half or 2 weeks, I am losing count. Some nights she is fine and will lay down quietly and other nights she puts up a fight. The first night she really cried I had to time it so I wouldn’t give in within a minute. She ended up giving in around 8-10 minutes. Now, on the nights she does cry it usually lasts about 1-2 minutes…which still seems like forever. It is hard to not just run back in her room and try to make everything better. Naps have actually been harder than night-time. I had the last 5 days off with her and her naps were hit or miss…when I say miss she just decided she wasn’t taking a nap that day…fun times! We are making it though and I think we are all going to survive!

I really think she has forgotten about it for the most part. However, we were at the zoo on Friday and she saw a little kid with a pacifier in her mouth and started reaching for it. I had to quickly distract her and go the other way. I have also gone through the house and collected all the pacifiers laying around so she didn’t stumble upon them and fall of the wagon.

 

 

14 Months

16 May

(On Mother’s Day on the way home from brunch, about to pass out.)

Hello my beautiful girl! You are 14 months old today and you have spunk.

Each morning when you wake up you bring a new skill to the day. Over the past 14 months we have become accustomed to talking to you and not really getting much of a response back. However, these days you are really starting to understand things we say. It is amazing that you can completely understand us but we have no idea what you are saying.

What are you doing these days you may ask.

– waking up at 6:30 everyday….even on the weekend

– maintaining a healthy appetite and will devour anything involving pasta

– you have been without your pacifier for a couple of days now (more on that tomorrow)

– you have become my little shadow, where I go, you go

– you love to be held these days, even more so than when you were smaller. you walk up to us and stretch out your arms signaling for us to pick you up

– your laugh is contagious

– you wave “hi” and “bye” to people everywhere we go

– your dad and I hold daily conversations about how awesome we think you are

– you have mastered the screeching noise when we take something away from you….it makes me break out in a hot sweat when we are in public

– you chase all the animals around the house like a zombie, with outstretched arms

You are the most important thing in our lives. If you are happy and healthy at the end of the day then I mark that a successful day in my book.

You are so loved little girl.

Love, Mama

Short Stories

16 May

This weekend I was putting fresh sheets on our bed and Lila was helping me. When I say she was helping, I mean she was making kissy faces at herself in our closet mirror. I turned around to talk to her and she was slipping her little feet into my favorite flats. Once she got her feet in, she started shuffling around the room and laughing. She was so proud of herself for putting on mommy’s shoes. Next thing I know she has picked them up and started to walk out of the room with them. I was curious, and she needs constant supervision so I followed behind her. She carried my shoes into her room and cleared off a spot on her shoe shelf and lined them up with all her shoes. I died of utter cuteness.

This morning Josh went and got her out of her crib and brought her in the bed to snuggle with us for a bit. She wasn’t interested in snuggling but she was reaching for Blossom, our dog. Josh called Blossom over so Lila could pet her. She came and nestled right beside Lila and Lila laid her head on top of blossom’s. She then started patting the top of blossom’s head and we told her she was being very sweet. She then quickly applauded herself. All we could do is laugh.

Steppin Out – Mother’s Day Weekend

14 May

Mother’s Day weekend was filled with lots of friends and family.

I got to attend a good friend’s wedding and hang out with my best girls:)

Lila and Josh had a daddy and daughter afternoon and went to see family in Newport. I hate I had to miss it but the wedding was lots of fun!

We had some JLJ time. We have called ourselves this since high school. (Jamie, Laura,Jamie) Baby Bray is making his presence known though, so he got to be included:)

What I’m wearing: Dress> Francesca’s Belt>Francesca’s

Sunday morning we had brunch at Copper Cellar with my parents. This was our best attempt at a family photo. Lila was exhausted and ready for a nap so she wasn’t up for picture time.

My loves.

My sweet girl.

Me and my mama. Love her.

What I’m wearing: Dress> thrifted  Belt> Francesca’s

I hope all you mama’s had a wonderful Mother’s Day.

 

For Mama

11 May

For as long as I can remember I have always written a sweet note to my mama on Mother’s Day telling her how much she means to me and what a great mom she is. I don’t think I truly understood just how incredible she is until this past year. As I am finding out for myself what it takes to be a mother I realize I owe her so many more hugs and thank you’s. It is hard to appreciate your mom to the fullest extent until you have become a mom your self. It is then that you really understand all the little and big things your mom did for you throughout your life. I have told my mom several times over the past year that if I can be half the mother she is to me then I will feel accomplished.

Growing up my mom wasn’t super strict but she let me know where I stood and what was expected of me. We had a great time together but I wouldn’t say we were friends while growing up.  Now, though, I consider her my best friend. I talk to her almost every single day on the phone, I take Lila to see her and my dad about every other weekend and when they are in town they come see us. I hope I can be a great mother to Lila  in order to one day be her best friend.

We have had so many amazing times over the years and she has always been there for me. Now that I am a mother I love being able to go to her for reference. Did you do this with me? How did you handle that? Is this normal? It is great to be able to draw from her experience.

My mom showed me that being a mother means being selfless, putting your wants and needs on hold and wanting to take a nap so badly but playing pretend with your daughter instead. 🙂

When I was small and didn’t appreciate sleep the way I do now I wouldn’t give my mom a moment’s peace. She would say “I am gonna lay down for 15 minutes and then we can play.” I would respond with an “ok” like I completely got it and I was going to let her get some rest. I might have given her 3 minutes before I went back in to ask her if she was ready to play. I have a feeling this will be coming back my way with a little girl named Lila bug.

It is difficult to put into words how special my mom is and how lucky I am to have her. I am so happy that my daughter also gets to experience her loving touch and generous heart.

Mother’s Day 2011

 

Recurring Dreams

8 May

For years now I have been having the same 2 recurring dreams.

The first one consists of me being back in high school and I can’t figure out my class schedule. I have always waited til the last minute and can’t find any of my classes. I always try and go to my counselor to get her to print out a new schedule for me or I am trying to log on to the computer to get a new schedule printed out.

The second one always takes place in college. I have completely forgotten about a class for the entire semester and when it comes time to take exams I realize I never dropped the class. It is always some type of history class. Sometimes this scenario interchanges with forgetting about an art project until the very end of the semester and I can’t get my work completed. I am always throwing something awful together at the last second trying to pass.

These dreams sounds silly but when I am having them they are super stressful and I wake up tired with no resolution.

Apparently my dad has had and still has similar dreams to these.

I had a combination of the 2 dreams last night and it disturbed me enough to look up the meaning of them this morning.

I found this article.

Basically it gives these meanings.

  • The dream often occurs in approximation with having forgotten or being concerned about forgetting to do something important in waking life
  • The dream may reflect a sense of responsibility, duty, or choice where the dreamer knows what he/she should do, but is hesitant/reluctant to do the act
  • A change involving the end of something is imminent and there is low confidence about the future
  • It is a time when regrets of past actions or inactions have been in mind—a possible prompt to not “put off until tomorrow what can be done today”
  • The dream, when it comes in approximation with a significant date, such as a birthday, anniversary, school reunion year, date of the death of someone significant, offers the doorway to the classroom as a metaphor to paths not taken, the recognition that a “long” time has passed without goals achieved
  • The dream is a reminder not to miss an opportunity or take a more active role in one’s destiny

Upon reading a little bit more I found that this is one of the top ten most common dreams to have and I found a website where hundreds of people had written in about having such similar dreams.

So I guess I’m not a weirdo, not for having this dream anyway.

I just find it fascinating that so many people have this exact same dream.

All Things Lila

7 May

Giggles.

Quality time with G-Mama.

Sweet feet.

Tankini time!

Must squeeze into the chair.

Don’t forget my sunscreen mom.

Learning to push the wagon, not just ride in it.

Whoops, tipped over:)

She loved splashing around in the wagon and thought me spraying her was hilarious.