Archive | August, 2012

Life Lately…In Pictures

31 Aug

 

 

A Smile For Your Wednesday

29 Aug

 

We were playing peek-a-boo in the driveway πŸ™‚ Lila makes me feel like I should do stand-up comedy. However, I doubt most audiences don’t enjoy a good game of peek-a-boo the way she does.

 

A BIG Weekend!

27 Aug

We had a crazy, busy, fun, chaotic and unforgettable weekend.

On Friday night Josh and I met up with my brother and few other friends to see The Old Crow Medicine Show at the Tennessee Theatre. Over the past 10 years we have seen Old Crow multiple times and they are one of my favorites. Brian introduced us to them at a little bar in Johnson City when we were in college. That first time was something special with a room of about only 30 people, so it is incredible to see how much they have grown over the years. The concerts don’t have that same intimacy as in the beginning but the music still touches my soul each and every time.

Friday was also Brian’s birthday so it was a night of celebration all around. I was so happy to be able to spend the night with my two favorite guys. Since my brother is on the other side of the country these days I tried to soak in every moment and not take anything for granted.

Friday was a late night and Saturday I had to be up and moving. I was moving but not very fast. Sometimes I forget I’m not 21 anymore but it was well worth it.

On Saturday we had planned a 40th wedding anniversary party for my parents. There was still a lot of preparation to be done before that evening so it was go go go! I headed to my parent’s house and gave Lila bug some lovin. She had stayed with them the night before so we could go out and we were both happy to see each other. We spent a little time together before I took her to see her Mamaw Lisa. She spent the day with her so we could get everything ready for the party.

She made it back for the end of the party!

We hired a photographer for the party so my parents could have some pictures that we wouldn’t have had time to do otherwise. As soon as we get those back I will share more about the party and the fun times we had.

Here are a few shots I got of the tables:

I can’t wait to see all the pictures and to share all about the party!

Needless to say we spent Sunday recovering and resting and I am still exhausted. I may be going to bed about 8 tonight:)

 

 

The Days of Discipline Are Upon Us

22 Aug

Lila experienced her first time-out yesterday. She didn’t like it.

Lately, she has gotten into the habit of pinching me. She likes to do it while I am reading to her, when she is sitting on my lap, when she wants my attention and during toothbrush time. Obviously I am not a fan of being pinched, I don’t really know anyone who is. We started out with a stern “NO,” followed by that hurts and it’s not nice to pinch people. That didn’t seem to work so then I decided she needed to understand what she was doing. I pinched her back…not hard but enough to get her attention. That seemed to work for a while and I thought we had an understanding it didn’t feel good and we were cutting it out. However, in the past couple of weeks the pinching has made a reappearance. I decided pinching her back wasn’t working….after I pinched her she started pinching herself:( And, of course I felt bad for pinching my baby, even though I was trying to teach her a lesson.

Last night as we were reading books she was pinching me over and over again….it was starting to hurt. Apparently she sees it gets a reaction out of me and I think that is why she continues. Josh suggested she probably thought it was a game so maybe we should try time-out. I had my doubts because I thought maybe she was too young to grasp the concept. Oh she understands and she doesn’t like it. Directly after she pinched me I told her she was going to time-out. I walked her over to an area away from all her toys and had her sit in the floor. I told her to sit there and not move. You Β know what? She sat there and didn’t move and I was blown away. However, after about 20 seconds she realized this wasn’t “fun time” anymore and burst out into tears. SAD. The first thing I wanted to do was to rush over and scoop her up and tell her it was gonna be ok. But I didn’t. I let her sit there for a minute and half and I just had to watch her cry. After the time was up I went over told her that pinching hurts and we don’t do that to mommy or anybody else. It took her a couple of minutes to calm down and realize the world wasn’t ending. I gave her a hug and we continued story and playtime before bed.

Toothbrush time rolled around and as we were getting those suckers all shiny and bright she reached over and pinched my chest. NO! So back we go to time-out. She sat for another minute and half but this time she started crying immediately. She tried to get up and we told her she had to stay put….she didn’t like that and the cries got louder. As she was sitting there Josh and I were both telling her to calm down and everything was ok. Once she quit crying I went and picked her up and repeated everything about not pinching. Then, she buried her little head in my neck and started sobbing.

Discipline time is not fun but I know it is necessary. I understand this is only the beginning and she will test us along the way. We are learning everyday. Sometimes we get it right and sometimes we don’t. I think this is a step in the right direction….now mama and daddy just have to stand strong πŸ™‚

As I went to check on her last night this is what I found…

 

I almost wanted to wake her up to give her a big hug and kiss but then I came to my senses and just stood admiring her like a weirdo;)

Finding Confidence in Motherhood

20 Aug

When we brought Lila home from the hospital my mom stayed with us for two weeks while we developed a routine and adjusted to all the change. When it was time for her to leave I squalled like a baby. I didn’t think I could do it without her and I wanted her there by my side to talk me through every move. I remember thinking I would never have time to fix myself a meal again or get dressed, I was completely overwhelmed. As a few weeks passed I found my footing and grew more confident. I knew what Lila needed and when she needed it. Those moments when you can give your child what they need are so satisfying. But, then in the next moment you are letting them fall off the couch. FAIL. Just as we thought we had her figured out she started to enter a new phase of mobility that was a whole new ballgame. That’s the tricky thing about this whole parenting gig, right when you get comfortable everything changes.

I feel like we are in the middle of huge change with Lila right now. She is developing such a personality and becoming so independent. It is incredible to watch but terrifying all at the same time. She is so active and on the go that at times I think I have to be the most boring person in the world to her. It is in these times when I have to dig down deep and find the confidence I know I have. I have to allow myself to let loose and have a good time and not feel like every second of the day has to be planned out. It is easy to fear that you won’t be enough for your child or give them everything they need. Then, I look down at the end of the day and I see she is thriving, laughing and playing and I know we are doing the best we can. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like it is my best because there are hard days….days when things aren’t easy or come natural. But, I’ve decided that’s ok, that’s just life and things are never going to be smooth sailing all the time.

I guess I have found with being a mother that I worry a lot more than I ever thought I would. Mainly about things that are completely out of my control. Lila and I were with my mom running errands the other day and she whispered to Lila, “Don’t tell your mama but you never stop worrying about your children.” It hit me then, whether your children are 3 or 30 they are still your children and you will always worry about their well-being. I am trying to focus on this moment in front me and making the best decisions for today.

Some days the confidence comes easy other days it takes a little digging.

Look What I Found This Morning

15 Aug

As I was getting dressed this morning I realized Lila was being a bit too quiet. Usually when this happens she is climbing on something she shouldn’t be or trying to crawl through the cat door. However, this morning I found this….

 

This was the best way possible to start my day πŸ™‚

Connecting at the Couch

10 Aug

Josh and I don’t get to do a date night very often but we do meet on the couch every night. I know that doesn’t sound very glamourous and almost lazy. But, it is one of the favorite parts of my day.

It is a way for us to unwind. We just sit and talk. Sometimes we don’t even talk but that’s ok too. Just that time together at the end of the day to remember what is important and reflect on our day is a treat for me. Alot times Lila is the topic of conversation and how lucky we are to have her. We go back and forth discussing the newest trick she is doing and wondering how we ever got by without her.

Couch time is good.

 

 

 

 

Becoming Fluent in Grunts, Groans and Grumbles

10 Aug

Lila is an expert grunter. She can do it all day long. And when she finds a grunt doesn’t work she moves right on to a grumble and a groan. However, Josh and I are becoming pretty good at deciphering which grunt means what. I imagine it has to be pretty frustrating to know exactly what you want but not know how to tell anyone. So basically you just end up grunting and groaning until they guess the right thing. It’s what any of us would do. Once we figure out exactly what it is Lila wants we repeat the name of the object over and over again while handing it to her hoping she will get the hang of it.

I mean, if we are being honest it is a little frustrating on our end as well. Our boss grunts at us all day long πŸ˜‰

In between grunts and groans she has started to laugh non-stop. It’s kinda like she is telling us jokes but we just can’t understand them yet. She scrunches her little nose up, shows us her teeth and just giggles herself silly.

Life Lately….In Pictures

7 Aug

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Steppin Out Saturday

7 Aug

Top>>Forever 21 Β Pants>>Delia’s Β Shoes>>Target Β Earrings>>Bonnaroo Β Bracelet>>Art Festival

Saturday consisted of lots of housework, yard work, tidying and then we stepped out to my mother-in-law’s surprise 50th birthday party! We had a great time and got to spend some great time with family. Lila got to run wild and be spoiled to death so she was lovin life:)

My pictures are a little wonky this week. I took my own pics so I ended up with some unique poses:) Hope you all had a wonderful weekend!