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Cherish Your Grandparents

8 Oct

I miss not having my grandparents around. I haveΒ written about them before and all the wonderful memories I have of them. I was fortunate to be able to spend a large amount of time with them throughout my life but like many things in life I think I took them for granted. I look back at my teenage self and wish that I spent more quality time with them. Of course now I see they weren’t gonna be here forever but it is hard to make a teenager comprehend such things.

I lost all of my grandparents pretty suddenly. My grandmother had a stroke and died shortly after due to complications caused by the stroke. My grandfather Overholt, my dad’s father suffered from the beginning stages of Alzheimer’s and his health had started to decline rapidly. My grandfather Hodge, my mom’s father died from cancer of the mouth that appeared suddenly and was simply too strong to fight against. He was my last living grandparent. He was able to see all the preparations for my wedding and I was able to show him my wedding dress the day before I got married. He wasn’t able to be there the day I was married because he was so weak. He held on long enough to see pictures from the ceremony the next day but then he passed in his sleep not long after.

I have enough memories of all them that I could probably write for an entire year straight about all the things I was able to experience with them. I know I was incredibly lucky to have them around so long and for them to be such a crucial part of my life. It doesn’t make it any easier though to not have them here now. I wish they all could have had the opportunity to meet Lila just one time. I know she wouldn’t have remembered but I know they would have loved her and been so proud.

Shew, this is making me super emotional and teary so I am going to end it. If you have your grandparents around go spend some time with them. If I had one more day I would make it count.

The Love of Grandparents

30 May

After Lila got to spend the week with her grandparents last week it really made me start thinking what an impact they have on our lives. I remember so many wonderful things about my grandparents and they comprised a large part of my childhood.

We referred to my grandparents as More-Mama and More-Daddy, I had 2 More-Daddys and 1 More-Mama. My brother deemed them with these names when he was small. My parents were trying to explain who they were to him and his cute name stuck. My More-Daddy Overholt, my dad’s father lived with us for basically my entire life. The house we lived in was the house my dad had grown up in. More-Daddy lived downstairs which was its own little apartment and we lived upstairs. He was a part of my everyday life and I feel so grateful now that I got to spend so much time with him. He would pick me up from school everyday, join us for dinner most evenings and was always there for you no matter what you needed. His favorite pastime was to sit out in front of the house and watch the world go by. He was a fixture of our house and it was almost a disappointment to arrive home and not have him sitting out front greeting you. If it hadn’t been for More-Daddy I wouldn’t have discovered the joys of “The Price is Right.” He never missed it and I remember sitting with him in the summers and watching Bob Barker give away cash and prizes. That may seem silly but those little moments are priceless.

I also spent a large amount of time with my mom’s parents, especially in the summer. They only lived a short 2o minutes from us. We spent summers building teepees, going to Dollywood, swimming and having overnight visits. I always loved going to their house and More-Mama could make the best mac n cheese in the whole world. They would take me to the local drugstore where I enjoyed chicken n dumplings and chocolate malts. Also, from the time I was 4 until I was about 12 or 13 we would go to the beach each summer. My grandparents along with my mom, dad and brother would spend a week in Garden City, SC. I have some of the most vivid memories of my life from those trips. My grandparents would get up at dawn and walk the beach, only to return with a plethora of sharks teeth. My brother and I thought this was the coolest thing and would fight over the biggest ones. We would have cucumber and tomato sandwiches for lunch while my grandparents caught up on their favorite soap opera at lunch, As The World Turns. I can see the condo as clear as day in my head, I remember the sweet smell of the saltwater, and the instant feeling of never wanting to leave as soon as we arrived.

I can’t help but think about all the lessons my grandparents shared with me and how my life would be so much different if I hadn’t had them. I wish they were around now to see how our lives have changed and blossomed over the last several years. I know they would be proud though. I want to share all these good memories with Lila and let her know how important all her grandparents are. I want her to come away with these tangible memories that she will carry with her throughout her life.

My parents always told me when I was growing up that it was important to spend a lot of time with my grandparents because they wouldn’t always be around. Even though I got to spend an amazing amount of time with them, it is was hard to appreciate all that time fully until it is too late. It is easy to take the people you love most for granted.

This is a good reminder to love hard and often. Take full advantage of the time you have right in front of you.