Tag Archives: love

Don’t Wear Important Jewelry In Large Bodies Of Water

17 Oct

 

I’m kind of cheating today and referring back to an old post.

This definitely goes on the list as a lesson learned.

Find Forever Friends

15 Oct

I have been blessed with some of the best friends a person can have. Most of these girls have been in my life since grade school and we are still the best of friends. I have shared some of the best times of my life with them and have some of the craziest stories.

These are the girls I would ride back-roads with and listen to music for hours on end.

These are the girls that I would stay up until the wee hours of the morning with talking about everything and nothing at the same time.

These are the girls that I cried to when I had a broken heart.

These are the girls who know all my secrets.

These are the girls who I have celebrated life’s biggest milestones with.

These are the girls I love so much, we got tattooed together.

These are the girls that I could call in the middle of the night and they would do anything for me.

These are the girls I would scheme and brainstorm with when we found ourselves backed into a corner.

These are the girls that know what I am thinking without having to say a word.

These are the girls that helped me grow into who I am today.

These are the girls that would pick me up when I was down.

These are girls who it doesn’t matter how much time has passed, we can pick up on our conversations without missing a beat.

These girls are my forever friends and I know we always will be.

I know wholeheartedly that when we are 60 and 70 years old that our friendship will have only grown stronger.

I feel so blessed to have these friendships in my life.

Perfection Isn’t Necessary, At The End of The Day Life Goes On

4 Oct

This day 4 years ago, I was about to walk down the isle to marry my best friend.

Months and months of planning had all been put into that big moment. There had been moments of frustration and times when it seemed as though everything wouldn’t get done. I had a vision of what I wanted the day to look like and I wanted it to have a very personal touch. With the help of my friends and family we decorated the reception area, created handmade pom-poms, built the centerpieces and put every bit of energy we had into making things just right. I know on that day there were more little projects that didn’t get completed and items that didn’t end up in just the right spot. But, you know what? We still got married that day. And it is one of my most cherished memories. We didn’t need everything to be perfect and there was no need in me lying awake thinking of all the things that could go wrong. The reason our friends and family came together that day was to celebrate our love.

And celebrate we did! I wouldn’t change anything about that day except I wish I could of realized the only thing that really mattered was the people surrounding us and holding us up. I guess no matter how much you try and treasure each moment, your wedding day is one of those times in life that passes in a blur. It is wild that so much time and preparation is put into the planning and when you finally get a chance to look up and breathe it is all done.

These pictures have afforded me the opportunity to immerse myself back into that day and re-live each part. I hold all these pictures close to my heart and had so much fun looking through the almost 4,0oo of them! Can you believe that, 4000? Not one of them is a wasted image to me though, they each capture some small element that added up to a great day.

 

Today, I reflect on all the amazing things that have happened over the past 4 years and it makes my heart happy. Obviously, our biggest accomplishment is Lila and I hope that we can share with her what this day means and why it is so important. I don’t think we could ever really envision what the future had in store for us or what it holds. I’m just so happy that I get to hold my best friend’s hand today and know that he has my back. Things will not always be easy and perfect but I know with each of us looking out for the other we will get through whatever comes.

I love you Josh and happy 4 years.

 

 

40 Years = Whoa!

27 Sep

 

I’m pretty behind on this post but I couldn’t let it pass without sharing.

The 1st of September my parents celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary. I think this is pretty incredible and pretty rare. I don’t think I really appreciated how special this was until I got married myself. Marriage isn’t always easy, it is waking up everyday and thinking about someone else’s needs just as much as your own. My parents have been a solid foundation of love and something I have aspired to have for so long. Their example has shown me it really can work.

As I am about to enter my fourth year of marriage, I look to them on a consistent basis for guidance. Four years seems like nothing in comparison to the forty they have clocked in but I have to remember that you have to have your fourth before you can have your fortieth. Sometimes it is odd to think of your parents when they were age and wonder what they were experiencing in their life. As I have positioned my feet a little more into adulthood I love to ask them questions about what they went through to get where they are today. I am grateful that they are here for me to be able to do that. Each day that passes I can look back at choices they made and see the wisdom in them where I wouldn’t have ten years ago.

I remember when Josh and I were dating and things were getting serious that my dad gave me some great advice. He told me I needed to make sure my partner and I both had staying power. He said things wouldn’t always be easy and fun and you have to have that desire to stay and make it work even when things get tough. I will never forget this advice. As I look at my parents I see two people with the greatest staying power I have ever seen. They continue to choose one another each day. Some days that may be the easiest decision of all and they may not even have to think about it and other days it is a choice.

 

I will continue to watch and learn from my parents. They have laid out a roadmap in the last 4o years that if followed will lead to the best love there is.

For Daddy

15 Jun

I have been blessed with the best daddy in the entire world. When I look back over my childhood he was at every basketball game, every swim meet, ready to help me with my homework and eager to teach me new things. I think I have taken for granted what a present father he has been. It was the norm for my dad to be such a huge part of my life and I didn’t have to question whether he would be there or not. Through the years, I have found out just how lucky I am to have father who didn’t and still doesn’t want to miss anything.

My dad is an incredibly smart man, it is rare that you can catch him without a book in his hand. As a child I could always find him tucked away in his cozy study in the evenings. He is responsible for teaching me how to write and how to use my words to make a page come alive. I would always ย be timid to show him any paper I had written for school because I knew it was coming back with changes and lots of them. I hated that then but I appreciate it so much now. He pushed me to be better and not just slap something down for the sake of having it.

My dad was always the softy and I knew to go through him if I really wanted something. He truly has such a kind heart and knows the words to speak to make worry or heartache fade away. I remember one time in particular that stands out in my mind. I was still in college and Josh and I had broken up. I was emotional, upset and sad. My dad came up early in the day and he took me to lunch, we went to a movie and he even took me shopping. He would have done anything in his power to make my hurt go away. I will never forget that day with my dad and all the wise words he told me about life and relationships. The relationship thing worked out….ya know, Josh is now his son-in-law:)

As hard as it is for parents to see their children in pain, I think it is pretty hard for children to see their parents in pain too. This past year has been a challenging one for my dad as he underwent three back surgeries. I have never seen him in so much pain and it was truly heartbreaking. Thankfully though he has made a huge recovery.

I love watching him interact with Lila and how their faces light up when they see each other. It brings me so much joy for him to be able to get in the floor with Lila and cut up. I look forward to the adventures they will go on together and I can’t wait to see all the amazing things he teaches her.

We are all lucky to have him in our lives and I am especially grateful to call him my father.

I love you daddy.

The Love of Grandparents

30 May

After Lila got to spend the week with her grandparents last week it really made me start thinking what an impact they have on our lives. I remember so many wonderful things about my grandparents and they comprised a large part of my childhood.

We referred to my grandparents as More-Mama and More-Daddy, I had 2 More-Daddys and 1 More-Mama. My brother deemed them with these names when he was small. My parents were trying to explain who they were to him and his cute name stuck. My More-Daddy Overholt, my dad’s father lived with us for basically my entire life. The house we lived in was the house my dad had grown up in. More-Daddy lived downstairs which was its own little apartment and we lived upstairs. He was a part of my everyday life and I feel so grateful now that I got to spend so much time with him. He would pick me up from school everyday, join us for dinner most evenings and was always there for you no matter what you needed. His favorite pastime was to sit out in front of the house and watch the world go by. He was a fixture of our house and it was almost a disappointment to arrive home and not have him sitting out front greeting you. If it hadn’t been for More-Daddy I wouldn’t have discovered the joys of “The Price is Right.” He never missed it and I remember sitting with him in the summers and watching Bob Barker give away cash and prizes. That may seem silly but those little moments are priceless.

I also spent a large amount of time with my mom’s parents, especially in the summer. They only lived a short 2o minutes from us. We spent summers building teepees, going to Dollywood, swimming and having overnight visits. I always loved going to their house and More-Mama could make the best mac n cheese in the whole world. They would take me to the local drugstore where I enjoyed chicken n dumplings and chocolate malts. Also, from the time I was 4 until I was about 12 or 13 we would go to the beach each summer. My grandparents along with my mom, dad and brother would spend a week in Garden City, SC. I have some of the most vivid memories of my life from those trips. My grandparents would get up at dawn and walk the beach, only to return with a plethora of sharks teeth. My brother and I thought this was the coolest thing and would fight over the biggest ones. We would have cucumber and tomato sandwiches for lunch while my grandparents caught up on their favorite soap opera at lunch, As The World Turns. I can see the condo as clear as day in my head, I remember the sweet smell of the saltwater, and the instant feeling of never wanting to leave as soon as we arrived.

I can’t help but think about all the lessons my grandparents shared with me and how my life would be so much different if I hadn’t had them. I wish they were around now to see how our lives have changed and blossomed over the last several years. I know they would be proud though. I want to share all these good memories with Lila and let her know how important all her grandparents are. I want her to come away with these tangible memories that she will carry with her throughout her life.

My parents always told me when I was growing up that it was important to spend a lot of time with my grandparents because they wouldn’t always be around. Even though I got to spend an amazing amount of time with them, it is was hard to appreciate all that time fully until it is too late. It is easy to take the people you love most for granted.

This is a good reminder to love hard and often. Take full advantage of the time you have right in front of you.

For Mama

11 May

For as long as I can remember I have always written a sweet note to my mama on Mother’s Day telling her how much she means to me and what a great mom she is. I don’t think I truly understood just how incredible she is until this past year. As I am finding out for myself what it takes to be a mother I realize I owe her so many more hugs and thank you’s. It is hard to appreciate your mom to the fullest extent until you have become a mom your self. It is then that you really understand all the little and big things your mom did for you throughout your life. I have told my mom several times over the past year that if I can be half the mother she is to me then I will feel accomplished.

Growing up my mom wasn’t super strict but she let me know where I stood and what was expected of me. We had a great time together but I wouldn’t say we were friends while growing up. ย Now, though, I consider her my best friend. I talk to her almost every single day on the phone, I take Lila to see her and my dad about every other weekend and when they are in town they come see us. I hope I can be a great mother to Lila ย in order to one day be her best friend.

We have had so many amazing times over the years and she has always been there for me. Now that I am a mother I love being able to go to her for reference. Did you do this with me? How did you handle that? Is this normal? It is great to be able to draw from her experience.

My mom showed me that being a mother means being selfless, putting your wants and needs on hold and wanting to take a nap so badly but playing pretend with your daughter instead. ๐Ÿ™‚

When I was small and didn’t appreciate sleep the way I do now I wouldn’t give my mom a moment’s peace. She would say “I am gonna lay down for 15 minutes and then we can play.” I would respond with an “ok” like I completely got it and I was going to let her get some rest. I might have given her 3 minutes before I went back in to ask her if she was ready to play. I have a feeling this will be coming back my way with a little girl named Lila bug.

It is difficult to put into words how special my mom is and how lucky I am to have her. I am so happy that my daughter also gets to experience her loving touch and generous heart.

Mother’s Day 2011

 

Family Fun Times

12 Apr

Yay! I got my camera back:) The family shipped it to me super quick! This is some fun we had with the family over the weekend.

Family love time.

Eating puffs, or um, dropping puffs everywhere.

“I didn’t do it, whatever it is, I didn’t do it.”

The girl will eat anything.

This is Lila’s cousin Ella. She is so cute and funny and it appears she likes good kisses too. She says the most hysterical things. I was changing Lila’s diaper and she came up to Lila and said, “I like your lil body.” I die, how cute.

Lila was done. This was the night she was so overtired and exhausted that she couldn’t sleep.

We were so happy to get to spend the day with everyone. Life gets so busy that it just doesn’t happen as much as it should.

Happy First Birthday

16 Mar

Lila-

Last night you climbed in my lap and buried yourself securely under my arms. I read you your favorite bedtime story and you laid your cool face on my chest. You caressed Henry, the giraffe with one hand and wrapped your other one around my fingers. We rocked gently and I told you I loved you for the one-billionth time. We did this for the last time before you turned one.

This year has been fun, exhilarating, hard, surprising, scary and amazing. You name it and I have felt it. I just can’t express to you the immeasurable amount of joy you have brought to our lives. I hope you have enjoyed this year as much as we have.

Your smile and laugh light up the room and make the rest of the world melt away. I have been saying for the past couple of weeks that I have been a little sad and sappy about your first birthday. That is the truth, but I am also loving everyday with you. It is amazing to watch what each day brings and how much you change from moment to moment. You have started to give us kisses and hugs and I can tell you that my heart has never swelled so big. Sometimes I think it may pop out of my chest.

The love of a child has been written about so many times before but the words don’t seem to do it justice when it is your own child. Even as I sit here and try to convey to you how much I love you, the words just don’t seem to be enough.

You have made me a better person, less selfish, more understanding, happier and more patient. I thank you for that and I look forward to all the things you are going to teach me in the future. But, for now I am going to enjoy each day I have with you and take it moment by moment.