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Find Forever Friends

15 Oct

I have been blessed with some of the best friends a person can have. Most of these girls have been in my life since grade school and we are still the best of friends. I have shared some of the best times of my life with them and have some of the craziest stories.

These are the girls I would ride back-roads with and listen to music for hours on end.

These are the girls that I would stay up until the wee hours of the morning with talking about everything and nothing at the same time.

These are the girls that I cried to when I had a broken heart.

These are the girls who know all my secrets.

These are the girls who I have celebrated life’s biggest milestones with.

These are the girls I love so much, we got tattooed together.

These are the girls that I could call in the middle of the night and they would do anything for me.

These are the girls I would scheme and brainstorm with when we found ourselves backed into a corner.

These are the girls that know what I am thinking without having to say a word.

These are the girls that helped me grow into who I am today.

These are the girls that would pick me up when I was down.

These are girls who it doesn’t matter how much time has passed, we can pick up on our conversations without missing a beat.

These girls are my forever friends and I know we always will be.

I know wholeheartedly that when we are 60 and 70 years old that our friendship will have only grown stronger.

I feel so blessed to have these friendships in my life.

It’s OK To Still Need Your Mommy

11 Oct

I am 30 years old and I still NEED my mama. I guess it is something that never really goes away. I’ve called on her at so many different times in my life. However, the past year and half I have relied on her more than ever. In those first weeks after returning home from the hospital with Lila she was a lifesaver. She stayed with us for the first two weeks of Lila’s life. That was a week longer than she originally planned and if I had had it my way she wouldn’t have left. It was so nice to have her around to ask questions to, have her give me re-assurance and help out in whatever way possible.

When I look at Lila sometimes I think there will come a day when she doesn’t need me anymore. I’m sure we may go through that phase at some point but I know from my own relationship with my mom that she will always need me. It feels good to know that someone will always turn to you and rely on you no matter what the age. My goal in Lila’s life is to be a rock for her like my mom has been for me. I still want her to be independent and have her own voice but I want her to know I will always be here for her.

I talk to my mom almost everyday and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

40 Years = Whoa!

27 Sep

 

I’m pretty behind on this post but I couldn’t let it pass without sharing.

The 1st of September my parents celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary. I think this is pretty incredible and pretty rare. I don’t think I really appreciated how special this was until I got married myself. Marriage isn’t always easy, it is waking up everyday and thinking about someone else’s needs just as much as your own. My parents have been a solid foundation of love and something I have aspired to have for so long. Their example has shown me it really can work.

As I am about to enter my fourth year of marriage, I look to them on a consistent basis for guidance. Four years seems like nothing in comparison to the forty they have clocked in but I have to remember that you have to have your fourth before you can have your fortieth. Sometimes it is odd to think of your parents when they were age and wonder what they were experiencing in their life. As I have positioned my feet a little more into adulthood I love to ask them questions about what they went through to get where they are today. I am grateful that they are here for me to be able to do that. Each day that passes I can look back at choices they made and see the wisdom in them where I wouldn’t have ten years ago.

I remember when Josh and I were dating and things were getting serious that my dad gave me some great advice. He told me I needed to make sure my partner and I both had staying power. He said things wouldn’t always be easy and fun and you have to have that desire to stay and make it work even when things get tough. I will never forget this advice. As I look at my parents I see two people with the greatest staying power I have ever seen. They continue to choose one another each day. Some days that may be the easiest decision of all and they may not even have to think about it and other days it is a choice.

 

I will continue to watch and learn from my parents. They have laid out a roadmap in the last 4o years that if followed will lead to the best love there is.

For Mama

11 May

For as long as I can remember I have always written a sweet note to my mama on Mother’s Day telling her how much she means to me and what a great mom she is. I don’t think I truly understood just how incredible she is until this past year. As I am finding out for myself what it takes to be a mother I realize I owe her so many more hugs and thank you’s. It is hard to appreciate your mom to the fullest extent until you have become a mom your self. It is then that you really understand all the little and big things your mom did for you throughout your life. I have told my mom several times over the past year that if I can be half the mother she is to me then I will feel accomplished.

Growing up my mom wasn’t super strict but she let me know where I stood and what was expected of me. We had a great time together but I wouldn’t say we were friends while growing up. ย Now, though, I consider her my best friend. I talk to her almost every single day on the phone, I take Lila to see her and my dad about every other weekend and when they are in town they come see us. I hope I can be a great mother to Lila ย in order to one day be her best friend.

We have had so many amazing times over the years and she has always been there for me. Now that I am a mother I love being able to go to her for reference. Did you do this with me? How did you handle that? Is this normal? It is great to be able to draw from her experience.

My mom showed me that being a mother means being selfless, putting your wants and needs on hold and wanting to take a nap so badly but playing pretend with your daughter instead. ๐Ÿ™‚

When I was small and didn’t appreciate sleep the way I do now I wouldn’t give my mom a moment’s peace. She would say “I am gonna lay down for 15 minutes and then we can play.” I would respond with an “ok” like I completely got it and I was going to let her get some rest. I might have given her 3 minutes before I went back in to ask her if she was ready to play. I have a feeling this will be coming back my way with a little girl named Lila bug.

It is difficult to put into words how special my mom is and how lucky I am to have her. I am so happy that my daughter also gets to experience her loving touch and generous heart.

Mother’s Day 2011

 

Happiness Makes the Heart Ache

2 Mar

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As I watch Lila play in the evenings I long for her to stay this age forever. I love to see the wonderment, pride, and enthusiasm on her face as she discovers new things. Then, I realize that in each stage of her life there are going to be these wonderful moments that I simply want to bottle up and keep forever.

My heart aches for the moment because I am so happy I don’t want it to end. Only to realize upon waking each day that it has gotten better than I could have imagined.

I will take pictures of these moments, snuggle you close to me, breathe in your sweet aroma, tickle your tummy and toes, and play peek-a-boo to no end. I will cherish these moments I have with you.